Becky Skousen always knew she was adopted. And although she wished her birth mother well, she had no desire to find her. But when she signed up to a genealogy site, it seemed that fate had other ideas for her.
Like many teenaged girls, Robin Adair Passey had a boyfriend. She met her beau at high school when she was just 14 years old. However, their young romance didn’t go to plan, and when Passey fell pregnant, her boyfriend headed for the hills.
“I thought we were going to get married,” Passey admitted in an interview with ABC News. “And he turned. He decided no and I was rejected.” As a result, Passey and her mother moved to Hawaii. Once there, she could see out the remainder of her pregnancy.
“I lived there for five, six months with my mother,” she revealed. And it was during this time that Passey welcomed a beautiful baby girl to the world. However, she and her family agreed that it would be best for everyone if the teenage mother gave up her child.
At the time, Passey didn’t resist. “In those days, girls went away, had babies and then came back and lived their life,” she told ABC 15. As a result, the 14-year-old decided to put her little baby up for adoption.
However, Passey did have a chance to spend some time with her daughter before letting her go. “I got to unwrap her and count all of her fingers and toes,” she said. “And then that was it. I never saw her again. It was kind of like a death.”
Decades passed and there wasn’t a moment that went by when Passey didn’t think of her little girl. She didn’t even know her name, though, let alone the fact that a loving family from Utah had adopted her.
As the years ticked by, Passey must have assumed that a reunion with her baby was impossible. But little did she know, her baby girl was thinking about her at the same time. And she wasn’t bitter at all about her birth mom’s decision to give her up.
“I always had the attitude that, and I think my parents ingrained in me, that this woman loved me enough to give me a better life with a mom and a dad that could support me at the time,” Becky Skousen told ABC News. “I always figured that I would be able to thank her in the next life.”
Although Skousen often wondered what happened to her biological mother, she had no desire to seek her out. “I didn’t want to step into her life and upset everything,” she admitted. And besides, according to her, she already had the “best parents that anyone could have asked for.”
Meanwhile, in Arizona, Passey was desperate to find out anything about her daughter. As a result, she signed up to MyHeritage. The online genealogy platform helps its users to trace their ancestors and create family trees.
The site also allows people to send in DNA samples. By doing so they stand a chance of finding distant or long-lost relatives who have also signed up on the site. Passey thought it was worth a try, so she sent in a sample.
Much to her amazement, the website revealed that it had found a DNA relative. Moreover, there was a significant chance that it was a close relation as they showed a 49.1% match. But the next word Passey saw blew her mind. Because, in bold, it said “daughter.”
Unbeknown to Passey, Skousen had also signed up to the genealogy site. “I ended up doing my DNA test to try and find out where I’m from,” she revealed. However, she never expected the site to bring her together with her birth mom.
Passey soon contacted her long-lost daughter on Facebook. Once connected, the duo agreed to meet up in 2017. As a result, 43 years after she had given her daughter up, Passey was finally reunited with her. They met in Mesa, Arizona where Passey lived.
“It was at the Easter pageant at the Mesa Temple grounds, and it was by half a chance our youngest daughter, Mikella, saw [Skousen] at the flag pole and walked up to her,” Passay later revealed. “So here’s our very youngest and our very oldest meeting for the first time.”
Everyone was delighted for the pair, including Skousen’s adoptive mother, Caralyn. “When you adopt a baby, you know there’s another mother,” she said. “I was so grateful for her, really. When I was shedding tears of joy, I knew that she was shedding tears of sorrow.”
And Passey was equally thankful for what the adoptive mom had done for Skousen. “I am so grateful for what she’s done and taking care of Becky when I couldn’t at that time in my life,” she said. “I feel like I’ve know her forever.”
Now Passey, Skousen and their families are moving on with their lives together. In June 2017 Passey watched her little girl walk up the aisle to get married. It was a moment that she probably never thought she’d get to witness.
And in an incredible twist of fate, Skousen had been planning to move to Arizona before she had even reunited with Passey. Soon, then, they will be in close reach of one another. As a result, they can really start making up for lost time – all 43 years of it.